Are you aware, that one third of males 22-34 still live at home?
When I read that in The Pampered Prince: Moms, Create a GREAT relationship With Your Sons, it was shocking, but thinking about the men that I know, I can believe it's true.
C. Lynn Williams, author of Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen explains things to you in a manner that not only makes sense, but gets you thinking (and understanding) the reasons behind things you do (or don't do!) as a mom.
The Pampered Prince makes you want to further your understanding of your son, whether a small child, a teen, or a grown man.
Mothers, we often raise our daughters, and love our sons. It is really an unfair parenting phenomenon, but it happens, and it's so innocuous, that most women don't realize they are perpetuating it.
You must be saying to yourself... that's silly. I parent my children the same. I'm a mom!
Here's an example. (Now, be honest with yourself... how many times have YOU done this?)
The house is a mess! There is stuff everywhere. You tell your chidlren that you expect the chores to be completed along with their homework, by the time you get home from work. Your daughter's chore was to start dinner, and your son's chore was to take out the garbage. Neither chore is done when you arrive home from work, and each child has an excuse. You put your daughter on punishment (she's older) and you fuss at your son. "Charles, I told you to take the garbage out". End of fussing. Guess what- you did it! You have loved your son, and parented your daughter.
They're both guilty of breaking the house rules and both should be reprimanded equally.
As a mom of 2 boys, The Pampered Prince really hit home. I now understand why little boys want to 'put their pee-pees on mom' and why they push mom and dad apart when they try to kiss- the Odepius Complex. Why some men have trouble commiting to relationships -the Peter Pan personality.
In order to help you understand and comprehend your own parenting style, your son's behaviors (and your own!) and parenting in general, Williams offers a study guide at the end of each chapter, with thought provoking questions such as:
What kind of parenting style do you have? What kind of relationship does/did your husband have with his father? What does it mean to be respectable and honorable in your family.
These questions are to get you thinking. Thinking about the way your raising your son. Thinking about ways to change your parenting for the better. Thinking about how you were raised. What would you change about how you were raised, if you could? Perhaps just that question alone would alter your parenting style!
I learned so much reading this book, that I'm passing it on to my mom to read (she'll have to give it back though!!!)
This book is WELL worth your time, and I'd recommend it to any mom of boys. For that matter, anyone who deals with boys!! (Grandma...Aunt... heck, teachers!!) Everyone who could use a better understanding of boys!