What is next??? Any options at all?

I truly wonder if there is going to be any REAL help out there... Inpatient psychiatry doesn't even look like a viable solution... most kids stay there 3-5 days, and if the doctors don't SEE the behaviors you and the outpatient therapists are reporting happen, they cannot treat them.

I'll be the FIRST to tell you, my son won't be aggressive there to other people... it's not him.
The ONLY way that he'll be aggressive, is if they put us in a room alone, where he doesn't know they can see him... Then his colors may come out. Especially if he knows that we won't take him home.

I'm so lost.  I don't even know what to do.  I can't keep getting abused every day... I can't watch my son slowly kill my husband.  I honestly don't know if I could even forgive my child, if he did something that caused his father's death.  How could I even look at him, much less continue to live with him alone, taking the full on beatings that his father saves me from?
My husband will get in between us, just so our son will turn his anger on him, and off of me...

I'm so scared. I don't want to loose my son OR my husband...  but in the process, I'm really just loosing myself.

I need help...  and have no where to go anymore.  I love my mom, but she doesn't really even like my son.  She loves him, but barely knows him...  She is angry with him, because he hurts us.  And because of that, it shows every time she sees him.  She used to not believe there was even anything wrong with him.  For years.  Until she met a woman with a child with similar problems, who told her stories.  That changed her opinion of his issues, and her willingness to believe... but she's still not there.